Skipping the Christmas Card

Skipping the Christmas Card

I’m skipping the annual Christmas Card this year. My kids are 12 and 14 and have an opinion about what photos can be shared. I asked them a few times to let me know which photos were “OK” to send out, no response. To be honest, I’m not that heart broken about it.

Sending out cards started out with such enthusiasm when the kids were young. I genuinely loved sending out a card each year which featured several photos of our family experiences over the course of a year. And people seemed to enjoy the updates. It’s amazing how fast the littles grow and close friends and family seemed to enjoy the annual progress report.

I would always include photos of places we had visited and some fun experiences. As the years ticked by family photos of trips took center stage. I love to travel so it isn’t surprising that I would focus on these moments to document. In the back of my mind though, I wondered if this was a little too much. And at some point the card list expanded to people that were business associates and others that are not necessarily close friends or family members. What was once a loving family tradition turned into a holiday chore.

The family I have created with my husband has been blessed. As a couple we still like each other 20 years in, we are all relatively healthy and our kids are solidly good humans. We have been lucky enough to travel to fantastic places – Italy, Switzerland, Iceland, Hawaii, California – a bunch of wonderful memories in amazing locations. Not everyone gets to do this and maybe my card isn’t well received by all recipients.

I hadn’t really thought of the last bit when the cards were sent to people that truly know us. Those people know that I was raised by a single parent, was on Welfare as a kid and worked full time to put myself through college. They know my husband was raised by immigrant parents whose first language was Italian. He was brought up with two loving parents who worked their asses off to get him a good education. An education that he absorbed, coupled with the mind of an entrepreneur which, led him to create a successful business.

To the people that don’t know us well, those cards might seem like an opportunity to boast. They never were. They were always an expression of gratitude with a sprinkling of – can you believe we get to do this! Sure I could thin the herd and only send cards to a select few but even that seems elitist. It’s time to let go. We still have the memories and the photos, I’m just holding them a little closer now.




11 responses »

  1. I gave up cards years ago. Too much time, expense, waste, negative environmental impact, etc. And we never did the photo thing – no offense to anyone who does it or loves it, but I’ve never been a fan. I don’t miss doing cards at all.


  2. Good on you to embrace the change. I gave up cards a few years ago and only receive a handful now. I include a note with presents that I send to friends who live far away and love it when they update me on their news. As for your love of travel? I’m right there with you! Heading to Iceland next Fall and am delighted to learn that you’ve already been.

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    • Actually the husband and son have gone to Iceland – the girls missed out on that trip. We do plan to visit as a family soon. The other locations have been visited by all. I would have included a photo from their trip this year…if I sent a card out 🙂 I do feel kind of relieved.


  3. I wanted to tag you on Twitter but you didn’t have your social media linked. Follow me @ShareenM & @OTVMagazine on Twitter & I would love to add you to OTV’s closed author fan book paged where I can keep you in my reading list & support my favorites authors new and old.

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  4. Hi Bryce,

    I saw you tweeting about photos and I thought I’d check out your website. I really like it. Looks like Bryce has come a long way!

    Building a mailing list like you are is so important too, I think people would really like to be signed up to what you have to share.

    Good job on the social buttons, social media is so powerful these days

    You should consider installing an SEO plugin like Yoast or something, theres loads of good free ones.

    Also places like supa growth make free software for websites like yours, be worth checking out.

    Keep making great stuff!


  5. Maybe not the expected response but you just inspired me to write my letter! I’ve had concerns over the years of it being a brag letter too so have begun limiting who I send too. And it’s a miracle if they get out before New Years!!

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